Mother May I? Stop Waiting for Permission to Go After Your Dreams

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Do you remember playing the game Mother May I as a kid?

The goal was to be the first child to cross the finish line (pass mother) and win the game!

Supposedly, the goal of a good mother or father was to bring everyone forward as equally as possible. I clearly remember times when favoritism played a role, and the game was more about who you knew, not equal progression for all.

In the game, one person would be the “mother” and she’d be at the front, living large and in charge. The rest of us, “the children” would watch her closely and hope to hear our name called so that we could ask permission to move forward. She’d either grant the permission or she’d say “no you may not” and offer an alternative. If you accidentally moved while waiting your turn, you would be sent back to the starting line.

Consider some of the beliefs that may have been reinforced as a child simply by playing a game:

•there’s someone else in charge

•permission is required to move forward

•the power does not belong to you

•good people ask permission and wait

•patience is how you play the game

•winners wait their turn

•it’s best to follow the rules

•there are rules

•fairness is the goal

Some of these beliefs may be so deeply ingrained in you, you may still believe them. If so they may be holding you back. They may have helped you win as a kid, but as an adult they can be major progress blockers. 

Question everything.

Think for yourself. 

Consider this, what if...

There is no other human in charge of your life. It’s all you.

Only you can choose you. Waiting to be picked will keep you in the same place with the exact same results.

You do not need permission to be you. From anyone. Period. Ever.

You are powerful. You have the ability to think and choose and create. 

Patience is not the only way. You can question the game.

Life is not a game. This is not a practice run. Make all the mistakes you want and learn from them. Time stops for no one. 

Don’t be fooled into thinking you have forever to figure things out perfectly and THEN finally get started going after what you want. Get started now and figure things out as you go. 

Get sent back to start a few times, at least you’ll know what to do differently the next time.

If you wait for your turn to come it may never come. Go after what it is that you want with abandon. 

Continue the course until you get what you’re after, or something better.

When it comes to going after what you want, there are no rules. You get to make them. You get to decide.

Your dreams = your rules

You are fearfully and wonderfully made. The Creator of the Universe is waiting for you to stand up and do what you are meant to do. 

There is nobody else. 

It’s all you.

Stop waiting for permission.

 ~Shaun

Do you have some old beliefs that you’d like to take a look at? Book a free 45 min. mini-session with me and see how coaching can help you move in the right direction.


The Curse of Indulgent Emotions: How You're Creating Mental Stress

Confusion, Overwhelm, Doubt, Worry, Exhaustion and Busyness, are emotions that we indulge in far too often.

What do I mean by indulge?

We choose to feel them, because they keep us from feeling things that we imagine will be far worse.

The definition of indulge is, “to allow oneself to enjoy the pleasure of.” Wait what?

We don’t enjoy the pleasure of worry or staying busy…or do we?

These indulgent emotions have a way of making us feel like we’re doing something productive and important in the short run, when truthfully, they are keeping us from achieving the results that we want in our lives.

That is why they are indulgent, they cost us our dreams.

Have you ever felt super busy and then arrived at the end of your day with nothing really important to show for it?

The busyness took over. It can feel like you’re taking massive action. When in reality you’re staying busy doing a whole lot of not much.

And what about worry? This sums it up pretty well.

" Worrying is a lot like a rocking chair, 
it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere. "

GLENN TURNER

Take a look at this short video I made that takes a closer look at how indulgent emotions may show up in our lives.









ADHD Tendencies and the Entrepreneur: Three Ways of Being

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Being an entrepreneur isn’t for the faint of heart. It takes grit.

When you’re first getting started, it’s all about having the ability to get knocked down and get back up. Get knocked down again, and get back up. Over and over, obstacle after obstacle.

It seems so many people are Instafamous now (booming in business by all appearances on Instagram). The truth is a well curated page with oodles of followers does not a business make. There is so much more that must go on behind the scenes.

Work for yourself? Easier said then done.

Don’t get me wrong, it can be completely worth it. You’re just going to have to put in the work.

I was talking with a friend one day, we had both worked for start ups that had grown very large, and we were noticing that there are a few things to help you navigate being a solopreneur more successfully.

As your business is growing, three key perspectives stand out. Let’s call them the head, the heart and the eyes.

The head is the machine that is constantly thinking. It’s problem solving, strategizing, positioning and making decisions based on numbers. The heads primary consideration is mathematically what makes sense? Which way should we pivot for growth? In larger companies, it typically can be found in the roles of CFO, Accountant, and Sales.

The heart holds the compassion of the company. The part of the company that genuinely cares about the customer experience. The heart keeps pulse on the humans involved and leans more on intuition to make decisions. The heart is concerned about retention rates of both customers and employees. The heart is often found in Customer Service, HR, and CEO.

Last we have the eyes. The eyes are used for context and relevancy. Always looking to spot new trends on the horizon. Considering where the consumer is and how to connect with them. Reviewing processes for efficiency. Pulling branding together so that it’s cohesive. The eyes are often seen in Marketing, Analytics and Messaging.

Head, Heart and Eyes-all are necessary, which are you?

As your own boss, it’ll be helpful to remember all three. There are times when you’ll need a fresh perspective. Be aware of which place you’re making a decision from. Is it your head, your heart or your eyes.

Ask yourself why?

Ultimately you’ll want to have balance between the three. As you’re growing and bringing people onto your team, be aware of which they are.

As the saying goes, it takes all kinds to make the world go ‘round!