Day 13: Eggshells
Have you ever felt like you’re walking on eggshells?
Trying to behave a certain way so that someone else feels a certain way?
It can be exhausting.
I was in a relationship once where I thought that I could manage my boyfriends emotions by being and acting a certain way.
I thought that if I could anticipate what he was thinking and feeling, I could tell what would make him upset and do the opposite, so that he could be his best self.
The problem was, I then wasn’t being my best self.
I was altering my natural behavior to accommodate his behavior.
It was unfair to both of us.
I was not being true to myself.
I was not allowing him to grow into his best self.
It didn’t last.
Here’s the thing. You and only you, are responsible for how you feel.
You cannot delegate how you feel to someone else.
If they don’t do what you want them to do, you’ll feel bad.
When you are responsible for your own feelings, no matter what someone else does, you will be fine.
You can feel fine.
No matter what they say or think about you, it all works out.
They can be wrong about you.
They can be confused.
You know who you are.
Curious how that works?