I woke up in the middle of the night and had an epiphany. As I’m coaching with clients, it’s common for them to say “I keep doing the things and nothing, I’m just not seeing the results that I want”. I’ve thought it many times myself.
By nature I’m what is referred to as a “quick start”. On the Kolbe index, it describes the instinctive way that a person deals with risk and uncertainty. A person that is not afraid to jump in and do the things. That’s me.
According to the Kolbe index, “these change makers add vision and risk to the mix. Always negotiable, they defy the odds and intuit possibilities that would otherwise go untried. Because they instigate the unusual, people who operate in the initiating zone of Quick Start are natural promoters and entrepreneurs. Accommodating change is no problem for people who respond in Quick Start. For instance, they’ll go along if you change your mind at the last minute and want to see a different movie. “
I take action, I do things, and I adjust.
I take action, I do things, and I expect results.
What I realized the other night is that my expectations may be out of alignment. When I have a goal in mind, I envision where I want to end up, what it will take to get me there and what the obstacles may be. Often the obstacles appear in my mind as very, very large mountains or boulders that need to be scaled or overturned.
I think if they can’t be scaled or overturned then there must be a creative solution to get around them. (I love that one, problem solving is my favorite!)
On average, I imagine 3-6 very large obstacles at a time. Never more than that.
I had a belief that there are a few large obstacles in the way of our dreams, and if we feel afraid but still take action, and then creatively navigate the 3-6 very large obstacles, we would get to where we want to go.
It just made sense to me.
So many movies are based on this premise. The mission is in sight and yet there is one large obstacle in the way. One big problem to be solved.
I bought into the hype.
I want to solve the one very large problem!!
So when I woke up the other night, for some reason I woke up and the first thing that came to my mind was an image of 1000 pebbles. No boulder. No mountain. Just 1000 pebbles.
They were small, and smooth, and light, and the same.
Where do I start?
It doesn’t matter, just pick one and flip it over.
Pick another one, and flip it over.
What if the way to my goal is to flip 1000 pebbles? Am I willing to do it?
It sounds boring and uneventful.
Can I stick with it long enough?
What if I think the way to my goal is to flip 1000 pebbles, and actually it’s more like 100,000 pebbles? Am I willing to do THAT?
I decided that night as I drifted off back to sleep, yes, yes I am willing.
The next morning I woke up and got to work.