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Top 3 Reasons To Work With A Life Coach

Day 10: Life Coaching

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Today I want to spend a little bit of time sharing what exactly a Life Coach is and why you may want to work with one.

There are times in life when we can all use some outside perspective.

Times when things aren’t quite going as planned, or aren’t quite as clear as we want them to be.

When this happens, a Life Coach can be there to help you create forward motion.

The focus is not on your past, but rather on your present and future.

As a Coach, I am there to ask you powerful questions so that you’re better equipped to make powerful decisions for yourself.

It’s not my job to tell you what to do. It’s my job to help uncover what you’d like to do and why.

I’ve noticed 3 specific times when it can be extremely helpful to work with a Life Coach. Those times are:

1) When you have a specific goal in mind that you’ve been unable to achieve.

2) When you are feeling overwhelmed and uncertain of which direction your life is headed. You look up one day and realize life is passing you by.

3) You’re in a period of transition and wanting clarity around how to navigate the changes.

Let’s take an even closer look at each of these areas, and some specific examples for each.

You have a specific goal in mind that you’ve been unable to achieve.

  • You own your own business, but it’s more of a ‘jobby’ then a job. Meaning, you work hard, but have been unable to generate the income that you had hoped to generate.

  • You’ve been striving for work/life balance for the past 10+ years and have yet to achieve it. It feels like your days are defined by work and basic daily necessities (laundry, grocery shopping, kids and bill paying). You want more but are unsure of how to find the time.

You are feeling overwhelmed and uncertain of which direction your life is headed. You look up one day and realize life is passing you by.

  • You started out with hopes and dreams of what you wanted to be when you grew up. Now here you are grown, with children headed off to college, and uncertain about where your relationship stands, what your purpose is and what’s next.

  • Your house is a mess and you feel completely unorganized within your space. You can’t find what you need when you need it. Because of the chaos you miss deadlines, are often running late and feeling unprepared.

You’re in a period of transition and wanting clarity around how to navigate the changes.

  • You’re in a relationship and unhappy. You feel frustrated and hopeless because you don’t see the other person changing any time soon.

  • You’ve struggled with prioritizing, punctuality, and planning for most of your life. You’ve joked that you’re “so adhd” to friends and family. The problem is that it doesn’t feel very funny. You wonder sometimes if there’s something to it? or maybe you’ve just recently been diagnosed with adhd and you’re not sure what it means. Now what?

I can help. I’ve been there and have navigated those waters myself along with the help of my coach. It’s really changed the way I approach things and how I feel on a daily basis.

As a Life Coach I meet with my clients weekly for 45 minutes.

Our calls are done over Zoom (video conference), are private and can be done from the comfort of your own home. (If you prefer, calls can be done audio only so as not to distract you)

I offer a free 45-minute consultation to help you get started. Taking that first step is the hardest. After that, it’s so nice to have someone that you talk to weekly to clear out your brain, (and course correct if needed) so that you are living life on your terms, the way that you want to.

The 45-minute consultation is my gift to you. If you’re considering coaching, and are ready to invest the time and money to make the changes in life that you’re wanting to make, perfect! Book a call below.

We’ll use the time as a way to determine what you feel the problem is, how I can help and if we’d be a good fit. If you decide to move forward with coaching, we can get started right away and in 3 months you will feel so much better and more in control.

If you decide not to move forward with coaching at this time, no problem. You will have gained some clarity around what it is that you want. You will know what to expect if you decide to work together in the future.

The one thing that’s certain is if you keep going the way you’re going you’ll end up with the same results. The only way to have a different outcome is to try something different.

I’m invested in helping you make a decision for yourself one way or the other, and help you make sure that you like your reason. That in and of itself can be helpful. Coaching works when a person is ready.

If you’re ready, book a session today. ~Shaun

ADHD and Making Waves: How To Speak Up Without Rocking The Boat

Day 6: Speak Up

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There are so many times in my life that I’ve opted to keep my mouth shut, rather then speak up.

Why?

Because I didn’t want to rock the boat.

A calm lake was my cup of tea. Smooth sailing, no ripples. I didn’t want to make waves.

I often chose to stay quiet…

if a meal came out and it wasn’t how I ordered it.

when I disagreed with my husband about something

if a boss asked me to do something that I really didn’t have the bandwith to do

at one of many home parties that I attended when I really didn’t want to buy anything but felt obligated to

when I didn’t like the way my nails were done

if I disagreed with a popular opinion

during a discussion when the other person’s energy was stronger than mine

In all of these instances the action that I chose was INaction. I chose to do nothing. (Which by the way is still doing something.)

The feeling that drove my inaction was typically fear.

Fear of what the other person may think. Fear of appearing rude. Fear of losing status in the other person’s eyes. Fear of being perceived a certain way. Fear of seeming unreasonable. Fear of appearing ridiculous. Fear of rejection. Fear of sounding dumb. Fear of where the conversation may end up (Not sure where, but for sure somewhere bad!).

So much fear.

I’d often tell myself I was taking “the higher road”. Like there is such a thing.

What if there is just truth or untruth?

We’re either telling the truth or we’re not. We’re either lying or we’re not.

When we lie to ourselves so that it’s easier to lie to others, the price is high. We stop respecting ourselves.

We compromise our integrity. We hold others in higher regard than we hold ourselves. The problem with that is that it’s often a lie too.

The only way to authentically love others is to authentically love ourselves.

When we love ourselves flaws and all, and are willing to listen to what we have to say and think, and hold the space for our opinion to be one of many valuable opinions…we then open up to loving others, flaws and all, listening to what they have to say and think, and then holding the space for their thoughts to also be one of many valuable opinions in the world.

The exchange can then become honest and true and loving vs fake and false and manipulative.

It will take a bit of bravery on our part. Are you up for it? ~Shaun

Oh and ps…about that title…there’s no way to speak up and guarantee that you won’t rock someone’s boat. How someone feels is completely on them. You can’t control it at all. So speak up and trust that they will be able to take care of themselves.

If you consider yourself a people pleaser and would like to learn another way to interact with others I’d love to talke with you. When you discover who it is you want to be, how to show up and be that person, a weight is lifted. So much time and energy is wasted when we overthink how to respond, what others might think, and why they might think it. Jump on a call with me by clicking the button below and booking a free consultation. If you’re ready for change in your life let’s do it! Coaching can help get you from where you are to where you want to be. It gets you looking at what’s possible for your future vs what’s probable based on your past.


Nothing Else Needed: ADHD and Feeling Like You're Never Enough

Day 18: Being Enough

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I’m not enough.

Have you ever felt this way?

I know I have.

As a woman with ADHD tendencies, there are those days where I simply feel like I’m not enough.

Like something within me is broken.

Like things that feel so challenging for me seem so easy for others.

Sometimes when you’ve spent a lifetime being subtly corrected for things like

being unorganized

running late

poor planning

taking a long time to finish somthing

not finishing many things

having piles of stuff

shutting down

being super sensitive

being unreliable

forgetting things

misplacing things

losing things

the list goes on…

you can feel like something’s gone horribly wrong. You may feel llike you’re not even really an adult. You can barely take care of yourself, let alone anyone else.

If and when you feel this way pause and remember that you are not your condition.

You are enough. Exactly as you are.

You are worthy. There is nothing that needs to be done to earn or prove that you’re worthy. You just are.

Every single one of us was born that way. Fearfully and wonderfully made.

When you are tempted to look outside of yourself for a solution…nothing else is needed.

When you are tempted to find another planner, chart, program, system…nothing else is needed.

Just start from the place that nothing else is needed.

Just you.

You are enough.

~Shaun