mindset

Change Your Thoughts To Change Your Life

Day 8: Thoughts

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Our thoughts are powerful.

I do free consultations each week.

There is not currently any type of requirement to jump on a consultation with me. You don’t have to meet certain criteria to “qualify” for a consultation.

We set a time, jump on a call, you share with me what’s been going on, where you feel stuck, what feels overwhelming.

I sometimes think about setting some requirements before we talk. An application of sorts. What I know is that my clients that invest in themselves often see the greatest results.

By answering a few short questions I can usually tell if you’re ready for a change. I mean really, really ready for a change.

That’s what I love doing the most. Helping those people, who just like me, back 7 years ago are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I was committed to figuring things out. Then I booked a consultation, ready and hoping to have an action to take.

I was willing to do whatever it took for change to happen.

I didn’t have belief in my ability, but my coach did, and I decided to have belief in her.

Back to what happens when we’re on a consultation call…

By the end of the call most people I talk to have a taste of what change could feel like.

They want to believe that it’s possible for them.

They are curious about the coaching process because it sounds like a different approach.

Most have tried taking various actions to get the results they want. From a new planner, to Weight Watchers, to a budgeting app, to an online course, they’ve tried a few things before they’ve decided to book a free call with me.

At the end of the session some of them believe they can’t afford coaching.

They think the cost (out of pocket) is more than their budget can handle.

I think NOT coaching is more than their budget can handle.

Here’s what I mean by that.

What is the cost of continuing the way things are going and not changing? What will you miss out on? How could you have grown and what could you have accomplished if you started now vs waiting until a “better” time?

I get it, I’ve been there, and then I wasn’t.

I know that by becoming the best version of ourselves, we have access to more income. 

When we value ourselves more we invite others to value us more too.

When I hired my first coach, I heard the price, had an immediate thought of “oh wow, that is not what I had in mind.” (In fact it was about 3x what I thought it’d cost!)

I decided in that moment to believe so hard in myself and in her ability to help me that I decided to figure it out no matter what. And I did!

I found a way (it ended up being a payment plan) to get the result I was after.

It paid off. It was the start of a new chapter for me. I learned to stop shaming myself. I valued myself more.

The thought that I hear most often is “I just need a bit of time to figure it out.”

I soooo get it. As people with high functioning adhd, or adhd tendencies, we are used to “figuring things out.” We are confident in our ability to be resourceful and figure something out.

When it comes to getting forward motion in your life. I’d like to offer that the pause to figure things out can be the thing that keeps you from moving ahead. Decide, go all in, and THEN commit to figuring it out.

If you think that you alone need to figure out how to pay for coaching, I bet that you also believe that you alone can figure out how to manage your adhd tendencies. How has that worked up to this point?

My guess is that it hasn’t. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here.

What if what you needed, was to figure it out with someone else, someone who gets you?

“I need to figure it out” is an innocent sounding but often not very helpful thought.

What can you think instead that will have you believing ahead of time that you will figure it out no matter what?

~Shaun