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ADHD Problems And Potential Exist In The Same Space

Day 28: Problems and Potential

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Problems and potential go hand in hand.

Without one, you can’t have the other.

Without the potential of a mountain to be climbed, there wouldn’t be the problem of how to climb it.

Problems are a beautiful thing. They indicate that you have the vision for something better. Something to be. Something that isn’t currently.

Problems mean you see potential where others see nothing.

You see opportunity for growth and improvement where others may not even be looking.

Problems and potential must coexist in the same space.

When you see a problem as an opportunity rather than as an indicator that you’re broken, you’re on the right path.

Problems are opportunities to improve. Not indicators that something’s gone wrong, or that something’s wrong with you.

Problems aren’t personal until we have thoughts about them. They just are.

Maybe a problem that you struggle with is overcommitting. You have a hard time saying no.

The facts are “I agreed to _____________.”

It only becomes a problem when you have a thought about it.

Thoughts like:

  • I can never say no.

  • I really wish they would stop asking me to help.

  • I do so much for others that I can’t get my own stuff done.

The problem is that you don’t want to agree to something and you did. There is potential there.

Potential to do differently the next time. The first step to move from problem to potential is awareness.

Awareness of why it’s a problem for you in the first place.

If you struggle with saying no, or any other area in life that you consider to be a problem, book a free consultation and let’s see how you can move into the potential of what’s possible. ~Shaun






Managing The Many Thoughts Of ADHD

Day 22: The Model

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I’ve introduced you to the tool called The Model. Today let’s pull together all of the pieces of it.

It’s a tool that you can use to observe and manage the many thoughts that come along with having an adhd brain.

Here’s how that would work. Set a timer and empty everything that you’re thinking onto a piece of paper. It can be topic specific brain dump or just a general one of #allthethoughts.

Once you have all of your thoughts there laid out on a piece of paper, you’ll want to choose a few that stand out to you and run a model on each one.

I’ve gone over each part of The Model in seperate blog posts that are linked below.

Step one is all about our Circumstances. What is happening around us? The facts of the matter. Circumstances are often out of our control.

Step two of The Model are the thoughts that we think about our circumstances. One word sentences in our minds. Our opinion of things. What we think about things.

Our thoughts then create feelings in our body. Sensations or vibrations that we feel because of our thoughts. Step three is all about feeling our feelings.

How we feel drives us into action or keeps us in inaction (doing nothing). Step four focuses on the things that we do or don’t do. Our Actions.

Ultimately our actions create our results. Step five of the model is to look at the results that we’re creating and decide if they’re what we want our results to be.

You can dive deeper into the 5 components of The Model by clicking on the links above.

To summarize, here’s how they all fit together.

Circumstances are all around us. They are factual and everyone in the world would agree on them.

Thoughts are what we choose to think about a circumstance.

Thoughts cause us to feel a certain way (a one word feeling).

Feelings drive us into action or inaction.

Our actions (or lack of action) creates the results that we have in our lives.

Our result in a model will always prove our thought in that same model to be true.

If you’d like to learn how to do this live and in person, be sure to sign up to receive my Free Guide Top 5 Ways to Calm Your Mind and Create Forward Motion.

I’ll be sending out an email invitation to a class I’m teaching online on exactly how to do this for yourself.

~Shaun


It’s Time For The 9th Annual Succeed With ADHD Telesummit

Day 14: Success

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I’m honored to be a speaker at this year’s Succeed With ADHD Telesummit!

Each year the Succeed with ADHD Telesummit brings you a whole new experience by gathering ADHD experts and their unique topics in one place. This year, many of the topics share a common theme of how to live your best life with ADHD by saying goodbye to those things that are holding you back and instead focusing on what helps you thrive with ADHD.

One of the biggest things that can hold us back... REGRET!

So because this year’s telesummit is all about moving forward and living your best life with ADHD, I want to make sure you don’t wake up next week with that terrible voice in your head saying ‘I should have!’

So stop right now and sign up for the 2019 Succeed with ADHD Telesummit so you can take advantage of all the FREE information about ADHD and be further on your way to thriving with ADHD – CLICK HERE!

Hosted by Laurie Dupar of Coaching for ADHD and the iACTcenter, the telesummit starts Monday, July 15 and runs through Friday, July 19.

What you’ll get: Free gifts in the Telesummit SWAG bag and a chance to join the party of the summer (no swimsuit required) along with 25 ADHD experts (including me!) who will share their most up-to-date tips, strategies and systems for succeeding with ADHD so you can:

  • Reframe negative thinking and empower yourself to deal with ADHD challenges

  • Find out what your sex life has to do with your ADHD relationship

  • Learn about why so many people with ADHD self medicate with alcohol and what you can do about it

  • Empower your children to be more resilient, understood and successful

  • Organize and declutter your home or office

  • Manage your ADHD symptoms with diet and nutrients

  • Learn how menopause impacts your ADHD physically and mentally

  • Know the difference between hunger and craving and if you’re a ‘sugar-holic’

  • Feel confident sending your child off to college or limiting screen time (without losing your mind)

  • Achieve peace and happiness in your work by understanding your best ADHD working conditions

How it works: Each day 5 exciting expert ADHD speaker calls are featured and you will have 24 hours to listen to them via phone or computer completely free of charge….

That’s right – there is no charge to listen in as these experts share their secrets, experience and systems during that 24 hour period!

So, join me and the rest of those aiming to thrive with ADHD on the virtual Succeed With ADHD Telesummit!